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13 December 2013 @ 06:54 am
Kidney Cancer  
It's been confirmed that Dave's grandpa Andy has kidney cancer, third stage, intruding on a major artery and with the potential to form clots. It cannot be surgically removed because of the artery involvement. He's refusing any other treatments like chemo because of the side effects (he watched his wife go through that).

Personally I agree that at his age chemo would be so debilitating it would probably finish him off in the most miserable manner possible. Radiation therapy won't work, they said, with this particularly large tumor. It is slow-growing but already his kidney is very enlarged. (He didn't report his only obvious symptom until it was pretty far along. ASK your elderly relatives to tell you if they have blood in their urine! It's important. There are other causes for blood in the urine but it's a major symptom of kidney cancer and catching it early means it's operable. Ask them especially if they're having extra back pain.)

He's 97, he's had a good long life so far, so my hope for him now is that when he dies he doesn't have prolonged suffering in a hospital setting. He still lives at home alone and we'll see how long we can make it safe for him to do so.
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on December 13th, 2013 04:23 pm (UTC)
bless his heart.

that's what art did, pretty much. he knew he was at the end of his life, and reminded us of his living will, and told us exactly what he wanted. and we made sure that's what he got. then the time came when he knew he'd never breathe without the vent again.

jan's cancer is out of remission, if it ever really was in. it's trying to grow again. so she's off maintenance and back on regular treatment. this time she'll lose her hair.

Tapatitapati on December 14th, 2013 01:13 am (UTC)
It seems like almost everyone I know has someone who is very ill or dying or just lost someone.

I'm so sorry. :(
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on December 14th, 2013 01:39 am (UTC)
same on this end, too. {{hugs}}
Tapatitapati on December 15th, 2013 02:42 am (UTC)
Thank you. <3
W. Lotuswlotusopenid on December 14th, 2013 06:28 pm (UTC)
Best wishes to him for a comfortable transition, whenever that may come.
Tapatitapati on December 15th, 2013 02:42 am (UTC)