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02 July 2012 @ 11:48 pm
It Seems So Obvious But People Forget  
divorcejudgelecture

I know my life would have been better if my parents (and my stepparents) had kept this in mind.
 
 
 
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on July 3rd, 2012 06:04 pm (UTC)
wow. that's awesome!
Tapatitapati on July 4th, 2012 01:36 pm (UTC)

Isn't it?
carmy_wcarmy_w on July 3rd, 2012 06:15 pm (UTC)
This needs to be tattooed on the eyelids of every single parent, whatever the relationship with the other half of the equation.
Tapatitapati on July 4th, 2012 01:37 pm (UTC)

I bent over backwards not to do this kind of thing.
Christinekisekileia on July 4th, 2012 04:02 am (UTC)
Does this still apply when the other parent is/was abusive, do you think?
Tapatitapati on July 4th, 2012 01:39 pm (UTC)

I think it is a delicate situation and the emphasis as you discuss it (since the child will need to) is that the behavior was wrong and hurtful. Don't turn it into "x parent is evil." Behavior is not identity and can be changed, new choices can be made. That way the child doesn't take on the idea that half of them is evil.