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10 January 2012 @ 04:03 pm
Lying Liar Pants on Fire  
So divorcing guy lied in court. He claimed my friend got angry when their little girl cried as a baby and nastily yelled at her to "shut your cry hole." She gasped, as did others, when he said this. Apparently he realized his lie went too far and backtracked, saying, "Well maybe she was joking."

"Cry hole," however, is a phrase he came up with and would use jokingly in connection with giving the baby a pacifier, something to the effect of "put a binky in her cry hole."

He also claimed my friend never takes their daughter outside to play or in fact play with her at all because "she's always on the internet." He contends that is why she breastfeeds, so she can spend more time on the internet. It doesn't really work that way when the baby is now a toddler, but oh well. Why make your lies plausible? That's too much work.

For the record, of course she plays with her child and takes her for walks and to the park. There are videos to prove it. She may not hike through the woods like someone with "good Vermont values" but she did grow up in the Garden State.

Of course he's no stranger to wasting time on the internet himself.

He'd previously lied about the baby being weaned, obviously he knows she's not because then he turns around and asks for more breast milk when he has her.

He did admit that he took her on the trampoline back when she was 8 weeks old and added there were other children on at the same time. He still defends it as being a fine thing to do and said that she made everyone uncomfortable when she objected to it.

His contentious parents, still bitter over their own divorce, saw fit to attend even though they wouldn't come to weddings or graduations together. Ah, isn't it nice that a family can unite once again over a vindictive court appearance? Heartwarming, really.

There are three judges reviewing all of this and the verdict is to come before the end of the week. May the judges see through his lies and remember his various instances of poor judgment and give my friend legal custody. He would still get reasonable visitation. Even now, with the lies and harassment, my friend doesn't want to cut him off from his daughter.

I keep hoping he'll come to his senses and stop being so nasty, and be more like the seemingly nice guy I used to know. I don't recognize this vindictive, nasty, angry man he's become. I guess that side was always there, somewhere. It's just really sad. The other day he slammed a car door right by his daughter after putting her in the car seat because he was angry at my friend. Did he think for a moment about how that would affect her? I think he believes his child is oblivious to all of this but of course she notices body language, tone of voice, and things like slamming doors. He's so focused on punishing my friend for leaving him and daring to challenge him in court that he no longer sees his little girl.
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on January 11th, 2012 01:30 am (UTC)
Even now, with the lies and harassment, my friend doesn't want to cut him off from his daughter

Boy I would. I wouldn't even think about it.
Tapatitapati on January 11th, 2012 01:41 am (UTC)
She acknowledges that he does love his daughter, and that he's always spent a good amount of time with her and helped out a lot when they lived together. She doesn't want to deprive her daughter of a father. She knows from me how awful that is. She just wants him to be more civil to her, plain and simple. Not hard to do if you're a grown up. I think therapy would help him calm the fuck down and behave like a civilized person. He's letting is feelings rule right now.

Edited at 2012-01-11 01:41 am (UTC)
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on January 11th, 2012 01:44 am (UTC)
I hope you're right.