I thought of his blog recently as I watched a couple I have known for years start down the road to divorce. Custody issues are quickly turning people who once loved each other into bitter adversaries and so I've been pondering divorce and how my own went. For me, custody wasn't ever in question so it wasn't a factor--which I now see as a blessing. My concern was how to keep a decent relationship with my former abuser because I didn't want my kids to grow up like me, without a dad in their lives. If anything, I was frustrated that he didn't want to spend more time with his kids because I was the one who had to deal with their pain and disappointment and make excuses for him.
Below are some Single Dad Laughing posts related to his divorces and the aftermath that I've found helpful in exploring my own feelings of sadness about my friends' divorce (still feeling good about my own although I was sad at the time). I am hoping that they will find peace at the end of this difficult journey as well as some equilibrium as co-parents.
Time vs. the Worthless Heart
Should you get divorced?
The awesome awkwardness of announcing “the split”
The money pit no longer
When Noah's Not Here
The ten rules of the Divorce Club
Lawyers, you can’t live with ‘em, you can’t get divorced without ‘em.
Bonus post that applies to every human experience, including divorce and marriage:
The Disease Called "Perfection"
Do any of my divorced readers have words of wisdom about the process and about co-parenting?