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13 August 2010 @ 08:31 pm
Male-on-Male Violence  
Another issue that comes up when women write or talk about violence against women is that men are assaulting and killing each other. Yes, yes they are. It's a problem that should be solved, too. I don't think it's up to women to solve that one, either. We might help in whatever projects are created to address it. But I think, again, that men need to spur that effort.

My own energy is always going to be prioritized towards meeting the needs of women and children. I think that's a valid position. There are a gazillion world problems and we can't all tackle all of them at once. We have to pick a spot and brighten our corner, so to speak.

I just don't see why men have to interject, whenever we talk about violence against women, that men are victims too. Yes they are, and so please go work on that. Don't expect me to stop my conversation about violence against women as if it's not valid to talk about that.
Tapatitapati on August 18th, 2010 11:00 am (UTC)
Re: It's about controlling the verbal space.
Yes, it is about deflecting their sense of guilt--and I feel like that guilt is unnecessary anyway--dudes, if you are not abusing anyone, why feel guilty? Why not just focus on what you might do to help us solve the damn problem? Or if you can't, get out of our way while we try, at least!

In the same vein, I've always been surprised when people find out I'm a vegetarian and then launch into an impassioned defense of their own meat eating, even though I haven't said anything critical about it. (I don't go around talking about it all the time but if we have a meal together it comes up.) I always figured that if they were comfortable with their own choice they wouldn't feel a need to do that. I'm not a proselytizing vegetarian by any means.

Thanks for the link and for your wise comments.