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13 April 2010 @ 10:31 am
We Get By With A Little Help From Our Friends  
I have happily passed on donation information for others who are chronically ill while struggling to figure out which beans to cook today and adding a scrap of vegetable that I have left in a vain attempt to make it more interesting. I have urged people to contribute towards getting medication for others while my own medications go unfilled. I have watched as my husband goes every day to a stressful job that he hates in order to support both of us in an area where two incomes don't go that far anymore. There are medical expenses I haven't even tried to tackle with the little we have left after rent and food and basic meds. I need a new CPAP mask and hose, for example. I need special orthopedic shoes for walking because with fluid retention I no longer fit into normal shoes--they aren't high enough even if I buy a size too large. Doctors are always recommending things I should get in addition to my medications or urging physical therapy, always things I can't afford--even with health insurance. I've had to examine why I'm so quick to scrape up five bucks to donate to another chronically ill person while not ever asking for anything to meet my needs.

I suspect it's a combination of low self esteem and a working class bias against asking for handouts.

On the other hand, I have provided free previews of the rough draft of my memoir here, and if you were entertained by it and moved to donate, perhaps I can think of it as payment for being entertained. :)

I left the button set to allow you to enter the amount you feel that you can spare, and if you can't spare cash well wishes and prayers are also greatly appreciated. I have donated as low as five dollars, as I said, so no need to be embarrassed by a small amount! No one else will know. :)

Bless you for reading this and considering helping. I know many of us are in a hard place right now. If you'd like to pass on the link to this entry, please feel free and thank you!

danaewintersdanaewinters on April 13th, 2010 10:55 pm (UTC)
I've been there. BTW, the one from "Josef" is actually me (I used my husbands paypal).
Tapatitapati on April 13th, 2010 11:00 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
deneliandenelian on April 15th, 2010 02:50 am (UTC)
i know this song. sigh. every note :(

can i suggest that you cruise over to the LJ community that some friends set up with me, and look it over and see if it's something you think could work for you?
if you decide that "yes, that could work for me, i/we'll try it" i have two things i can give:
first, OBVIOUSLY you can springboard off the "save_liz" comm. and signal boost there.
second, if you do set up an auction-type thingy... well, so i bought a book [yay for gift certs - if someone gave me *money*, i'd feel like i HAVE to put it towards bills/meds - but gift certs? so BOOKS] and ended up with TWO copies of it - they're used [a penny each, and i only paid an extra dollar in shipping. as accidental purchases go, it was pretty painless...]. so i'll throw the book onto the "Auction donation" pile, if that's what you choose. it's "Gate to Women's Country" by Sheri Tepper, and it's AWESOME and very much a brain-child of feminism :)
Tapatitapati on April 15th, 2010 10:05 pm (UTC)

Thank you for the suggestions. It seems like a good system and when I have calmed down enough from the whole scene with my grandsons this weekend I'll look at it some more until I can grasp how it all works. I'm pretty brain dead right now!

Plus I need to get over my pride and my depression and the whole "they turn you down the first time" thing and at least TRY to file for disability. For me it feels like admitting that I did all that hard work to get out of poverty and off the government dole only to end up right back where I started (well, plus a lovely husband and an education and no kids to support). But it's clear that we can't function on just one income in this high cost area.
deneliandenelian on April 16th, 2010 06:52 am (UTC)
I don't know what happened with your grandsons - if you posted it, i'm a couple days behind, but i'll get to it -

but *hugs*

and... i know THAT one, too. getting SSI is a freaking pain in the ass. i've been trying for over 2 years, and just recently got a lawyer. i recommend one...
Debbie N.wild_irises on April 16th, 2010 08:29 pm (UTC)
I sent a little bit; I'm a friend of goodbadgirl and anyone she recommends is okay by me.
Tapatitapati on April 16th, 2010 10:50 pm (UTC)
Oh thank you! Fran rocks, for sure. :)