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13 April 2010 @ 08:28 am
Clothing needed  
This weekend my grandsons needed to be removed from their father's care. He is refusing to send their clothes and toys along or any of their records such as immunization, ss cards, birth certificates, and so on. Their mom got copies of the birth certificates but now needs to replace their clothes. Even their shoes--they came away in cowboy boots which are hard on their toes and not practical.

I don't know shoe sizes; I imagine she'll buy shoes. But I'm wondering if anyone knows of a source of hand-me-down clothing for boys aged 6 and 8. The 8 year old is tall and thin. He said his jeans were a size 12. They've always been a size or more bigger than what it says for their age. If mom goes shopping for a few things I'll try to get more exact size info. They've grown since they were with her last October.

I hope this counts against him in the custody lawsuit. I can't believe how petty it is. "That stuff is mine because I bought it." What a douche.

We can hit goodwill and salvation army stores when Dave gets paid and pick up a few things. Their mom is going to also look into thrift shops and resources where she lives. I gave them two backpacks before they left.

How many ways can you devalue your children?
Life Is Change, Princessdangerpudding on April 13th, 2010 06:10 pm (UTC)
Ugh. I have to say that similar behavior on the part of my un-father falls among the many things I still haven't really forgiven him for. Returning my toys (and my size 7 girls jacket) to me at age 25, just before he died, did nothing to help this.. it just proved to me that he knew they were my things, that he packed them up and set them aside, but wasn't willing to let me have them when I wanted them, as a child.

If possible, can you send an address where things can be sent, and sizes, to sarah@techbrat.com? Specific interests would be great too - they deserve fun things (books/toys), too. I'd like to make this transition easier on some other kids, cause I know people in the world when I was little put in time and effort to make it easier on me. Or, if it's easier, I can paypal you some cash. I just - ugh. It makes me mad, and sad for the boys.

If you'd rather not, my thoughts are still with them. Poor kids. It's so hard when the adults in ones world aren't really capable of being adults.
Tapatitapati on April 13th, 2010 06:44 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much!
danaewintersdanaewinters on April 13th, 2010 11:09 pm (UTC)
Go to http://www.freecycle.org/ I've given away tons of my kids clothes on there (and picked up a bunch of freebies as well), as a lot of parents do. It's basically a free exchange community - you post WANTED: Boys Clothing Size 6/7, and you get emails from people with outgrown clothing to donate. There's local freecycle groups in several areas (SC has a fairly huge group for such a small town).

Speaking as someone who once had to flee my own birth-father, I truly feel for those kids, and wish you the absolute best in helping them through this hard time. They're lucky to have family like you loving & looking after them, even if their dad isn't kind enough to be the same.
Tapatitapati on April 14th, 2010 12:13 am (UTC)
I'll definitely check things out on the internet because her computer was stolen. I can just make a big package and send it if I find something.
danaewintersdanaewinters on April 13th, 2010 11:17 pm (UTC)
In the meantime...my son does have a few extra size 7 t-shirts we could spare, if you wanted to send me a mailing address. Just email me at my jewelry business address: smallshinyobjects@yahoo.com
Tapatitapati on April 14th, 2010 12:07 am (UTC)
Thank you! I hope you caught the correction to her address, E before the street name. I am so dyslexic these days!
Rosehawaiianrose on April 13th, 2010 11:40 pm (UTC)
I was going to suggest freecycle but somone already did. Sometimes craigslist and church thrifts can be helpful. My thoughts are with you all. Can I send something? Do they need school stuff too?
Tapatitapati on April 14th, 2010 12:12 am (UTC)
She arrives back there today so I don't know yet what school items they might need. I gave them two backpacks. They may still have a bit of stuff back home. I'll ask her; I didn't think about that other than the packs. I'll update as I get more of a list.

One of the toy-related items they were upset about losing was their collection of Bakugan figures. Those are small and easy to send, so if you would like to send one (you can find them almost anywhere you see toys right now) they'd be so delighted. The address (I'll remove this some time later but it is friends' locked) is:

Ramya Duron
634 E Leland Avenue
Salt Lake City, UT 84106

I'll be scoping out internet stuff here because she doesn't have a laptop right now--someone stole hers as it was being transported to the home of the repair guy.
Rosehawaiianrose on April 15th, 2010 12:40 am (UTC)
I'll pop something in the mail tomorrow. It will be coming from Nashville.
Tapatitapati on April 15th, 2010 10:17 am (UTC)
Wow, thank you so much.

The boys were lamenting today about all of their lost stuff so they'll be happy when packages begin to arrive.

I don't think we know the half of what they've been through. Their mom went to touch the youngest child's face today and he flinched before he realized it was her.

Wishing their dad into some deep, dark hell somewhere...
The Scottish Guythescottishguy on April 21st, 2010 06:40 am (UTC)
Box of Boys clothes heading out from Santa Cruz tomorrow. Christina's Aunt was clearing out her sons closet and gave us a bunch of shirts and sweaters and stuff, not sure on sizes, but at worst they're a bit big.