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11 March 2010 @ 09:37 am
Suicide Prevention: Helping Friends or Family Members  
CNN has an excellent article today: How To Save a Friend From The Brink...of suicide

While it is not always possible to save a suicidal friend or family member, here are some ideas of what to do and what not to do. One of the best things you can do is to ASK directly when someone seems troubled or depressed: Are you thinking about killing yourself? They may not know how to broach the subject because of the shame around this in our society. It's a myth that you will put the thought into their head. Usually it is already there. The non-judgmental part is also key. Judgment just causes the person to withdraw more and isolation is so dangerous. I got through more than one suicidal depression with the help of my dear friends, for whom I am eternally grateful.
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on March 11th, 2010 08:47 pm (UTC)
As part of my group therapy every Monday, we take an assessment called a base depression index. I keep telling my therapist she needs to find a new test because of question #9. It's about suicide. It needs an extra option. E. I don't have time to think about suicide. She just tells me, "Mari, finish the assessment." :snort: But it's true. I've stayed so busy since Thomas moved in, I don't have time to think about suicide, let alone do it ... Who has the time??
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on March 11th, 2010 08:48 pm (UTC)
not that i'm making light of the article. i've been suicidal off and on since i was 13. two bad times. two failed attempts. the last was this time two years ago. honestly, nobody knows how i lived through that last one. i know it's left me fubar. the breakdown i had in 1995 left me broken and that last attempt just made things worse.
Tapatitapati on March 11th, 2010 09:05 pm (UTC)

My two attempts were Spring '95. I didn't know you attempted 2 years ago! I'm so glad you didn't succeed. (I guess suicide is one thing it's not bad to fail at.)
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on March 11th, 2010 09:11 pm (UTC)
i'm better now than i was but my mind and functioning will never be 100% again.
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on March 11th, 2010 08:51 pm (UTC)
the worst things anybody ever said to me were "it'll get better." that still pisses me off.
almighty_patsyalmighty_patsy on March 12th, 2010 08:37 am (UTC)
I think the point about not being afraid to say something ("What if I just make things worse?") is a really good one. Like a cherry on top of "Yeah, you really can try to do something" to reinforce it.
rainbowbabiesrainbowbabies on March 14th, 2010 05:42 am (UTC)
This is not always applicable, but indeed if one has suspects...yes this is very good information. My adopted brother killed himself a few months after returning from Vietnam. No one! I mean no one had any idea. He was cheerful, funny, loving, caring all the way to the last few hours...then he blew his off. It nearly destroyed our family. It took many years to accept, we or I are still healing from it.
I am happy to hear you came through my friend. It is such a devastation to the survivers. Thank you for posting.
rainbowbabiesrainbowbabies on March 14th, 2010 05:47 am (UTC)
Re: Suicide
I need to learn to proof read... " if one has suspicions"

"'he blew his head off"
My dad for years before he died would always say,
"when my son died in Vietnam" he could never acknowledge the suicide.