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18 February 2010 @ 03:36 pm
Fat hatred is so pervasive, even friends act it out  
I was rather shocked when a person on my friends' list at both Facebook and LJ chose to go into a fat hating rant in both places, first in comments to my own post on Facebook about the Southwest debacle, then on his LJ.

He's free to believe what he likes about why people are fat and whether they've ever tried to do something about weight loss or not (I have yet to meet the fat person who has not been on several diet and exercise programs but whatever). I just feel like I get enough fat hatred out in the world--I don't need friends to do it too. Really, you can't be my friend and bash fat people. Then try to smooth it over and say "Oh I don't mean YOU." Well, yes you do. I'm just like all the other fat people you are bashing. Sometimes I eat well and sometimes I'm depressed and eat junk. Gosh, that sounds like everyone, really.

I just don't believe that I can only be treated with respect if I eat the right things in the right amounts every day of my life. I'm a human being and I treat others with respect. I demand and expect the same in return.
Ms. F.goodbadgirl on February 19th, 2010 12:03 am (UTC)
Amen honey!

Tapatitapati on February 19th, 2010 05:59 pm (UTC)
Ms. F.goodbadgirl on February 19th, 2010 06:18 pm (UTC)
huskypapi sent me this link earlier - hopefully you will love it/her as much as I do!


Phatchickladybrigid on February 19th, 2010 05:30 am (UTC)
Thank you! If diets worked, I be a LOT thinner than I am, I'll be I've lost the equivilent of my body weight at least three times over my lifetime. I'm tired of trying to fit into the one-size-fits-all American Woman mold posted all over the media. I'm a big girl, and those who don't like me fat would probably hate me if I was thin.
Tapatitapati on February 19th, 2010 06:01 pm (UTC)
You're welcome!

The assumptions that we all live on Twinkies and Big Macs get tiresome.
lunaetstellaelunaetstellae on February 19th, 2010 08:08 am (UTC)
Tapatitapati on February 19th, 2010 06:02 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
thirishar on February 19th, 2010 08:15 am (UTC)
Then try to smooth it over and say "Oh I don't mean YOU." Well, yes you do. I'm just like all the other fat people you are bashing. Sometimes I eat well and sometimes I'm depressed and eat junk. Gosh, that sounds like everyone, really.

Oh, ffs. If you have dieted, exercised, worked with your doctor, sought nturitional advice from qualified sources and basically made every attempt to lose weight, then no, I am NOT talking about you.

My rant about fat people is, believe it or not, NOT about looks. It's about health. It's about the strain hundreds of thousands of fat and obese people place on the healthcare systems of our respective nations, leading to increased health insurance premiums (or if you're in Australia, increased Medicare levies), longer waiting times for surgery because more fat folks need lap-band surgery or liposuction to keep from being crushed under their own weight, and internet drama and social unrest caused by fat people BAWWWWing about how they can't get two seats on an airplane. IF YOU WEREN'T SO GODDAMNED FAT, YOU WOULDN'T NEED TWO SEATS ON AN AIRPLANE, WHAT PART OF THAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND?

But that's OK. You just defriend me and go sit in denial with your comfort foodz and scream about how you're being fatsecuted (WWWAAAAHHHH YOU'RE FAT-BASHING YOU'RE FAT-BASHING!) because OMG you might actually need to lose weight in order to keep from worsening your heart problems. Fuuuuck.
squirrelboilersquirrelboiler on February 19th, 2010 09:09 am (UTC)
Should my son have his legs amputated so HE can fit on an airplane?

I'm 5'9" and 130 pounds and *I* am squished in airplane seats - what part of THAT don't you understand?

And what about those steroidal sports players or bodyguards or just plain people. That's right - just plain people. Bet they haven't refused any royalty or celebs. lately (or years ago for that matter).

I remember you, General Wicca (bathrobe, beret and all) and seem to also recall you hate, well, just about everyone but yourself.

If you can't see what a fabulous , talented, intelligent , penetrating and learned person Tapati is, then you are the one in a world of darkness. Of all the people to insult you have to hit on one of the people that is most admired by everyone I know. You couldn't hope to reach her achievements in your wildest dreams.

So why don't you crawl back to your solitary cell of egocentricity and breathtaking poverty of mind and spirit and leave discussion to your intellectual superiors ( which, now that I remember you, is just about everyone and probably includes a cardboard box).

Your loss, our gain and you are in for a sad and solitary life.

squirrelboilersquirrelboiler on February 19th, 2010 09:25 am (UTC)
Re: Gee,
Sorry for disturbing the decorum of your LJ, Tapati but I can't let a well-known troll and hater of everyone ( he's got quite a list of people he thinks should be euthanized) write about you or anybody in that fashion.

Tapatitapati on February 19th, 2010 06:04 pm (UTC)
Re: Gee,
Oh you are quite welcome to shoot trolls here. Especially ones I've had to defriend over such language.

Though I am still blushing at your description of me. You are too kind. :)
Tapatitapati on February 19th, 2010 05:56 pm (UTC)
The problem is, YOU HAVE NO WAY TO TELL who are the "good" fat people trying their hardest to lose weight and those who've never tried.

There's a word for people who judge by external factors without knowing all the facts. Bigots.

Even Kevin Smith wasn't trying to overturn SWA's policy--just to get them to apply it objectively and fairly. We've seen many instances where the prejudices of people like you have taken precedence over their own written standard. Like any other recipients of customer service abuse, those affected have every right to advocate for themselves.