David and Tapati's Wedding
February 2nd, 1998
Music starts (The Chieftains Celtic Wedding)
Ramya (bride's daughter) walks Tapati down the stairs to where David is waiting.
Preamble--Rebecca (dear friend who officiated at wedding)
Welcome. It is my great privilege and pleasure this evening to join together David and Tapati in marriage.
Readings: Randa, Judy (groom's mother), Dave, and Tapati.
Preamble to vows/Handfasting (explained)--Rebecca
David, Tapati, in the time that you have been together, I have watched your relationship blossom into something deep, loving, and lasting. I have seen your great care and regard for one another in every glance you share, every word you exchange. It is said that the union of God and the Shekinah, the divine feminine aspect of God, is a reflection of the unions we create for ourselves on earth. The more perfect the marriage on earth, the more this perfection is reflected in the heavens. Tapati, David, it is my wish that your marriage and your life together be filled with a spark of the divine and that through the years to come, you will continue to seek the divine in one another. Today we are here to consecrate your wedding with rings and vows. May you continually consecrate yourselves one to the other with your deep and growing love throughout the life you will spend together.
From The Song of Songs:
Stamp me in you heart,
Upon your limbs,
Sear my emblem deep
Into your skin.
For love is as strong as death,
Harsh as the grave.
Its tongues are flames, a fierce
And holy blaze.
Endless seas and floods,
Torrents and rivers
Never put out love's
Those who think that wealth
Can buy them love
Only play the fool
And meet with scorn.
Handfasting. (Our hands bound loosely together.)
[taken from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, marriage of Worf and Dax]
David, son of Michael and Judy, does your heart beat only for this woman?
And will you swear to join with her and stand with her against all who would oppose you?
Tapati, daughter of Bonnie and George, does your heart beat only for this man?
And will you swear to join with him and stand with him against all who would oppose you?
Tapati and David, as you have affirmed your willingness to join together, I now invite you to make the promise of your covenant together.
Tapati, please repeat after me: I, Tapati take you David to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; forsaking all others, till death do us part.
David, please repeat after me: I, David take you Tapati to be my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; forsaking all others, till death do us part.
Rebecca: These rings are the symbol of the vows taken, a circle of wholeness; the perfect form. These rings mark the beginning of a long journey together filled with wonder, surprises, tears, laughter, celebrations, grief and joy. May these rings glow in reflection of the warmth and the life which flow through the wearers today.
David: I give you this ring as I give you my love and faithfulness.
Tapati: I give you this ring as I give you my love and faithfulness.
From Deep Space Nine:
Rebecca: Let all present here today know that this man and this woman are married.
You may now kiss.
Intro to wine/breaking the glass
To symbolize the life that the couple will share, they will now drink from a glass of wine. In the Song of Songs, it is said:
O for your kiss! For your love
More enticing than wine,
For your scent and sweet name--
For all this they love you.
Tapati and David, may your life together be as sweet as the wine lingering on your lips.
There is an ancient Jewish custom of breaking a glass at weddings. This tradition has several meanings. The first is to symbolize the destruction of the temple, to remind us that even in the happiest of occasions, we must remember sad ones as well. Today we break the glass to remember those people you love who are unable to be here today. Another meaning of this tradition is that the couple will have one year of happiness for every piece of glass. In this tradition of mingled sadness and joy, I invite you, David, to break the glass from which you both have drunk.
Intro to jumping the broom
It is a Celtic tradition for the bride and groom to jump a broom together to symbolize the household they will share.
[Jumping the broom.]
The vows have been said, the rings exchanged. You are now sworn, one to the other. All that remains now is to bless your new marriage. And so I say, may the God and Goddess protect and defend you, may they turn their faces unto you and shine upon you. May they be gracious unto you and grant you peace. Blessed Be.
And now--Feast, drink, and drink deeply, lovers.