September 27th, 2010


Home Sweet Storage Unit?

I get tired of homeless dreams. It's been a long time since I was homeless--since the early eighties, in fact. Why do I still have so many dreams about it?

Last night at least I managed to find shelter indoors, instead of the more usual sleeping-outside dreams.

I moved into the storage unit! There I was with my boxes of stuff, tucked into my bed all snug. I'd even put a rug down. In the dream there were others doing the same thing and we were all very supportive and congenial.

But I woke up and was like, WTF? I'm not homeless, dammit!

The other annoying dreams are the moving/apartment-hunting dreams. I have moved many times in my life, even in the last few years, so at least I understand why I still dream about it. I am forever trying to find home.

What Young Women Need To Know About Men

Warning signs of a potential abuser:

LIST OF WARNING SIGNS HELPS WOMAN RECOGNIZE ABUSER (Dear Abby) Our daughters and granddaughters should all know these signs. Any young women with apparent low self esteem should also be considered for counseling.

Companion post: Open Letter to my Grandsons About Domestic Violence This is especially important for boys who, like my grandsons, have witnessed domestic violence in their own home or anyone who seems to have problems managing anger. I'd also intervene with therapy early on in such a case.

Likewise, if girls seem to have trouble managing anger and act it out physically, they may need anger management training and boys with low self esteem should also be helped to overcome that and recognize the signs of an abuser also.

Basically, relationships shouldn't just "happen," but rather, teens should get some training in how to have a good, healthy one and how to recognize problems. We take them to a zillion other lessons, why not get them some assertiveness and communication skills?