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09 May 2010 @ 08:25 am
When Mother's Day is Painful  
Grieving Mother's Day by Julie Cohen.

Excerpt:

I wish that alongside all of the Happy Mother's Day cards, there were other cards that acknowledge those of us who have a difficult time with the day. For instance, people in my situation, whose mother has passed away or mothers whose children have passed away. Also people who, for whatever reason, are estranged from their mothers or mothers who are estranged from their children. Somehow, if you do not have a mother in good standing, it can feel as if you don't exist. Well, to all of you grieving this Mother's Day for reasons that I mentioned or those that I did not, I want to acknowledge you and offer this prayer. Not only has it brought me comfort, it brought my mother comfort, too. I found it among her things after she died. So, this is for all of you who are grieving this Mother's Day...



In the rising of the sun and its going down, we remember them.

In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter, we remember them.

In the opening buds and in the rebirth of spring, we remember them.

In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn, we remember them.

In the beginning of the year and when it ends, we remember them.

When we are weary and in need of strength, we remember them.

When we are lost and sick at heart, we remember them.

So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us, as we

remember them.

~~Hebrew Union Prayer Book~~
 
 
 
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on May 9th, 2010 04:23 pm (UTC)
mari concurs.
Tapatitapati on May 10th, 2010 02:12 pm (UTC)
{{{hugs}}}
W. Lotus: Peacefulwlotus on May 9th, 2010 04:52 pm (UTC)
That is a moving sentiment, and quite appropriate. Thank you for sharing this.
Tapatitapati on May 10th, 2010 02:12 pm (UTC)
You're welcome!
rainbowbabiesrainbowbabies on May 9th, 2010 05:56 pm (UTC)
Mothers Day
Thank you for the sentiments....I really appreciate them. I miss my mother who passed 21 years ago and it's her birthday this month too. I feel alot of self doubt as a mother due one estranged daughter, though my other choldren continue to say, "Mom, it's not you! you are a wonderful Mother." How do I beleive that?
Tapatitapati on May 10th, 2010 02:13 pm (UTC)
Re: Mothers Day
It is confusing to have one child validate you and another reject you, as I know. I'm sure you did your best.

You might like this:

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/parents-of-estranged-adult-children/discussions
3treekisser: Crocuses3treekisser on May 9th, 2010 11:18 pm (UTC)
Thank you for sharing this. I am lucky to have a loving mother, but it's made me think about her and my grandmother (passed away 13 years ago).
Tapatitapati on May 10th, 2010 02:14 pm (UTC)
You're welcome!
lunaetstellaelunaetstellae on May 10th, 2010 12:32 am (UTC)
Thank you for this. It is beautiful.
Tapatitapati on May 10th, 2010 02:14 pm (UTC)
You're welcome. :)