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04 June 2008 @ 02:10 pm
Polyamory and kids  
Scenes From a Group Marriage is a great article in Salon from the perspective of a man whose family took up the practice when he was nine years old. It has sparked some thoughtful letters.

One of the comments that resonated with me, though I certainly don't think the issue is limited to polyamorous relationships, is the issue of disappearing adults in a child's life. I experienced the same thing with my uncles-in-law, bonding with them only to have them disappear when my aunt divorced them. There was no legal obligation to allow us to spend time together. This felt like a constant replication of my abandonment by my father. I think that there ought to be some thought given to how to handle this in a way that doesn't leave children repeatedly living through this kind of loss--whether in monogamy or polyamory.

Otherwise I have nothing against polyamory. Like any other form of relationship, it needs to be practiced in a careful and thoughtful manner.
 
 
 
Mari Adkinsmariadkins on June 5th, 2008 12:35 am (UTC)
And the rules have to be followed by all parties or everyone ends up in a mess like we've been in since ... well, for several months now. :screams: