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29 June 2014 @ 04:18 pm
Andrew Enrico Caviglia's obituary

"Services will be held on Tuesday July 1, 2014 at 1:00 pm at Benito & Azzaro Pacific Gardens Chapel, 1050 Cayuga St., Santa Cruz, CA. Visitation will be held at the chapel on Monday from 4:00pm to 6:00 pm. Interment will be in Holy Cross Cemetery, 2271 7th Ave., Santa Cruz, CA. Please visit to light a candle or express your condolences to Andy's family."

I had my talk with the cardiologist and she doesn't want to schedule an angiogram until my cholesterol numbers are better and she's not certain that my depression is under control enough that I would follow through on the plavix. I am taking some additional medications and pointed out that when I move (within a couple of months) I will switch away from Kaiser back to Aetna which pays for weekly therapy. So we're going to see how my blood tests improve and then consider a stent. I also want ONLY unmedicated and she can't guarantee that. I suspect my previous cardiologist would see my point and I will be returning to him. So wait? Or just deal with plavix for a year--which I'm allergic to. Dave would like me to go ahead as soon as possible. I don't feel so trusting of Kaiser employees wielding needles and catheters. I am trying not to worry in the midst of packing to move and getting ready for a funeral.

I miss Grandpa Andy.
26 June 2014 @ 12:56 pm
Tuesday I had a nuclear scan of my heart both at rest and after exertion. The second portion of the test showed some blockage of my coronary arteries. I'm going to see the cardiologist Friday and ask if we can do an angiogram and maybe place another stent. The one in 2002 did really well so I'm hopeful.
23 June 2014 @ 05:55 am
For many years now we've assumed Andy would reach his goal of making it to 100 years old. Just a few years ago he was at every senior's dance and would brag about dancing every dance. That was when they were held every week. But then they dropped to once a month and with that change he seemed to slow down, gradually, until the day came that he was diagnosed with kidney cancer.

His friends have mostly gone before him. That is the downside of living to 98. His dresser mirror is crowded with funeral programs from each missing friend. His wife passed in 1991. He still had his daughter and grandson, son-in-law and me, his granddaughter-in-law. He still counted himself as very fortunate to live on his own. He planned to die in the Santa Cruz home he had shared with his wife and daughter.

Yesterday that is exactly what he did. Kept comfortable with morphine, resting in a hospital bed set up in his living room, Andy drew his last breath at 4:45 in the afternoon. Saturday his grandson visited and thanked him, among other things, for giving him his first computer.

He was preceded in death first of all by his mother, who died of Spanish flu while he was just a toddler. At his 98th birthday party he spoke of her a lot and we all wondered whether he was picturing a reunion. While none of us truly knows if such a thing is possible, it is comforting to imagine her at the head of a line of loved ones, waiting to greet her son and hear all about the life he went on to live without her.

18 June 2014 @ 03:41 pm This is brilliant, in my opinion, and demonstrates what happens when a group of people with one characteristic in common--body fat--are stigmatized and marginalized in our society. The basis of prejudice is noticing one characteristic and making assumptions about many other facets of a person without knowing them at all. For example, it is always assumed that fat people are lazy. Other assumptions are that we are greedy, self-indulgent and lacking in willpower. People may also assume they know what and how much we eat.

In response to living in this society, fat people have employed a number of strategies to maintain dignity and self worth. Some of us examine this system we are caught in that tries to de-humanize us and try to change it. Some of us try to conform and win approval. Others push back against stereotypes in a variety of ways. At different points we may have tried all of these things.

This post talks about "good fatties" and "bad fatties" and how our choices fit into our social system. How can we maintain our own dignity without leaving other fat people behind? How can we be "good" fat people without there being "bad" fat people? How can we advocate for simple human worth and dignity for ALL fat people? Because I firmly believe that all people deserve respect and dignity as human beings (which is why cruel and unusual punishment is not supposed to be applied to prisoners).

see also: Obesity Research Confirms Long-term Weight Loss Almost Impossible
22 May 2014 @ 04:58 am
A story about a Beatrix Potter book, rescued from the snow, badly damaged, and how some of it was salvaged. Beautiful photos:
17 April 2014 @ 04:29 pm
I confess my mental abilities have suffered during this depression. I initially had some difficulty figuring out who gets what prize. I sent the signed copy of my favorite body image article as soon as I could. Then I bogged down with my list of donors and my inability to function.

I finally found a box for the Kuan Yin trinity. I initially thought it went to one person but realized that in order of donations received there was one person ahead on the list. (SORRY!) But that means she gets a collage and I'll be in touch regarding a subject matter or theme for that. It was initially confusing because three people sent in donations in the same amount, vying for the Kuan Yin prize spot. I finally realized that the only fair thing to do is look at when the donations came in and choose the first of the three. (Yes my brain is S...L...O...W...) I do hope to wrap these up this month.

Initials of prize winners:

1. A.J.
2. V.H.
3. L.T.

Here are the prizes:

Prizes for donors:

1. Super secret advance memoir excerpt that has not been posted anywhere, signed, for top donor.
2. Kuan Yin trinity statue for second highest donor. This is wooden and has two folding doors that open up to display the trinity.
3. Personal collage made specifically for you for third highest donor--or a personalized poem if you'd prefer.

All donors: Signed copy of previously published piece. (sent)
13 April 2014 @ 08:08 pm
orange bread or muffins

Orange Bread (or muffins)

2 cups flour
3/4 cup brown sugar, packed
1/2 cup orange juice
2 eggs
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 tablespoon orange zest
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 cup melted butter
3 tablespoons sugar (This is for topping)
Preheat oven to 350°, Mix together dry ingredients. Mix wet separately: eggs, orange juice and butter, then add to dry ingredients until just combined. Don't over-mix (trust me, mixing until very smooth isn't good for muffins or quick breads--it should be a bit lumpy).

Pour into prepared muffin tins or a bread pan. I use a spray to grease mine or you can save wrappers from butter or margarine to make the process easier if you don't have a spray. Sprinkle the sugar on top before baking. Bake for 22-25 minutes (muffins) or 50-55 (bread pan) until you can insert a toothpick and it comes out w/o raw batter sticking to it.
11 April 2014 @ 07:43 pm

Photo description: lasagne in blue glass dish with following quote: "I will never stop being amazed by how we are encouraged to regard all fatties as people overeating to fill an emotional void, then interact with them in abusive ways that create emotional voids." --Melissa McEwan at Shakesville